10 Biggest Mistakes Made In Relationships

Hi pretties.. i would love to share this 10 biggest mistakes made in relationships, im guilty on some part, i believe that there is no perfect relationships, you just have to work it out so it would run just fine. We do have our own ups and downs, we fight, we argue but still we love each other, we have encountered difficulties too but still manage to keep and hold on on each other. 

So here it goes..

10 Clinging Too Much

Everyone needs their own personal space. If you love your partner you should trust them enough to give them their space and not try to invade every second of their life. This isn't the case when you're married. Marriage is a blessing and after marriage you and your partner share the same life together. But when you're in a relationship, you can't suddenly take over their life unless it's a mutual decision. Don't make them feel suffocated and don't make them regret the decision of being with you.

9 Being Jealous Of Each Other

Relationships should never have the element of jealousy involved. You love your partner, you are not supposed to be jealous if they have a better job than you or a better social circle than you. You are supposed to be their strength and make them bigger in life rather than complain about how you can't compete with them. It's not a competition. Your partner will do everything in their power to make you a stronger person and you should do the same.

8 Listening To Others More Than Your Partner

Bringing a third person in the middle of your relationship won't always end well. If you are facing a problem with your partner and you start asking the world for help it will obviously create a lot of trust issues between you and your partner. Couples Therapy is different, they are trained professionals and their only job is to make things work between you two. But when it comes to friends, everyone will give you their own opinion and it might make your mind think in too many directions which leads to over-thinking. And we all know where over-thinking takes us.

7 Leaving Arguments Unsolved

We've seen this happen a lot around us and it has happened to us as well. When an argument is left unsolved in the middle, it won't go away. It will keep growing and come out in the form of a huge fight which will eventually lead to break up. Whenever any problem arises, make sure you solve it then and there. If you forgive your partner's mistakes, forget their mistakes and never bring them up in future arguments, it will only mean you never forgave them in the first place.

6 Taking It Too Easy

Some couples start off amazing and slowly lose the spark they had. It could be because they don't find each other as interesting as they did before, it could be because of someone else being in their mind, it could be because of a lot of reasons but it shouldn't happen in the first place. Keep the romance alive and be the same partner you were when you first fell in love with them. Keep the romance going and make the memories stronger.

5 A Lot Of Giving And No Getting

I've seen a lot of relationships in which one of the two do as much as they can to make their partner happy while the partner forgets everything they did for them in the middle of every argument and every rocky phase. Relationships are all about give and take. If you don't cherish your partner for all the effort and time they spend on you, they won't be around for too long because someone else will make them feel appreciated. Start giving back, love them the way they love you or even more. Cherish them before it's too late.

4 Not Letting Go Of The Past

Everyone has a past. It is wise to clear everything up even before getting into a relationship with someone to leave no room for doubts and assumptions later. Don't cling to your partner's past either, the past shouldn't matter to you. You love someone for who they are not the baggage they carry. If you start snooping on them, it will only make you see things you shouldn't have seen in the first place and it will break your partner's trust because it was the past. Live in the present and work for an amazing future.

3 Assumptions

The word "assumption" actually makes me cringe. It is one of the scariest things to have in a relationship and it leads to nothing but a bad ending to a perfect story. Once you start assuming, you will make a habit of it and you will soon create an entire mountain of assumptions on your partner's shoulders. Stop assuming and start asking if there's anything you have doubts about. Relationships are built on trust, not assumptions. Just because they've made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you just assume they'll do it in the future.

2 Faking Interests

When you love someone, you love them for who they are. You love each and every little thing they do because that's who they are. You try making them a better person by making their bad habits go away. But it doesn't mean you start pretending to like what they do just to make them smile. Faking your interests in them will only make matters worse for later. Tell them exactly how you feel about them, their social life, their friends, their family, because you don't fake in love if you mean it.

1 Thinking Of Marriage As The Answer To Everything

Some couples tend to think marriage will end the issues they have brewing up between them. Marriage is one of the biggest moves in life and it changes lives. But it is not wise to take the step before knowing if it will last or not. Some couples tend to fight a lot, on a daily basis, and they think once they're married all of their problems will suddenly vanish. That's not the case, marry ONLY when you're sure of it and not just to save a dying relationship.

Source: 

http://relationshiprules.co/

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Restore Your Self-Esteem

by Claire Colvin

 

It is amazing what we accept as truth if we hear it enough times.

Has this ever happened to you:

You take a risk and get a drastic haircut. You look fabulous. You leave for work the next day in your favorite outfit feeling like a million bucks and thinking "I'm so glad I did it, I love it. I look great!" You step into the elevator at work and someone turns to you, frowns, and says, "O, you cut your hair, what made you do that?" Your hand goes to your hair and you'd give anything for a hat. You feel terrible. Why did you have to go and cut your hair?

Self-esteem is an issue for many women and in these days of ultra-thin models and SuperMom expectations it shouldn't surprise us. What is surprising is how quick we are to accept another person's judgement and how serious our lack of faith in ourselves can become. For me it started during high school because of a group of four or five guys who told me that I was stupid and ugly every single day. I believed them.

It didn't matter that I came from a home where both parents still loved each other and there was a steady supply of love and encouragement. It didn't matter that my grades were excellent and that I had a best friend who had stuck by me since third grade. I was told that I had no value and I believed them with all my heart. My self-esteem was at an all time low and it almost killed me.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem can be hard to define. More than just feeling good about yourself, taking pride in your accomplishments or liking what you see in the mirror, self-esteem is concerned with the way we judge our own worth. In his book Foundations of Psychopathology, Dr. John Nemiah defines self-esteem as the "ability to look upon yourself as having value."

We tend to look at the equation backwards. We think that how we look dictates our level of self-esteem when in fact it is our self-esteem - our ability to see ourselves as having value – that dictates how we react to the face in the mirror.

Impact of low self-esteem

As my confidence faltered and my self-esteem withered away I stopped talking in class, in groups, or in the hallways. I dreaded lunch hour, never stepped foot inside the cafeteria and the thought of class presentations literally made me sick. I withdrew and stopped smiling altogether.

Convinced I was worthless I stressed over every test and paper even though my grades were consistently in the 90's. My whole life revolved around being as invisible as possible. I thought that I couldn't get hurt if everyone forgot I was there. The situation continued and I needed a way out. I couldn't imagine anything that could help me. Because I saw myself as the problem, I began seriously considering suicide. I wasn't dreaming about an escapist fantasy, I was frighteningly practical. My experience is a common one.

Low self-esteem and depression

Low self-esteem does not necessarily lead to depression but studies have shown that the two often go hand in hand. In fact the World Health Organization (WHO) uses low self-worth in its description of depression. 1 Low self-esteem makes you your own worst enemy. Thoughts of "if only I were prettier, if only I was good at sports, if only I was funny or popular, if only I was strong enough to fix this" crowd out everything else. Even if we receive praise, the voices inside our own heads discount it. Like Julia Roberts said in Pretty Woman "the bad stuff is easier to believe."

The symptoms of depression are often internalized, and so the problem may be dismissed as unimportant, hormonal, or just a part of growing up. The WHO has found that, worldwide "fewer than 25% of those suffering from depression receive appropriate care". 2 It is critically important to pay attention to low self-esteem, especially in teenagers where suicide is in one of the three leading causes of death. 3 Even as adults low self-esteem can affect performance and advancement at work, make us a reluctant partner or a ineffective parent. Low self-esteem affects every part of a person's life. It is overwhelming.

Healing

For me, things did not improve so halfway through grade eleven I transferred to a different high school. The insults stopped but I still had to face myself, running wasn't going to fix that. Recovering a sense of self worth takes more than a change of scene, it requires a change of perspective.

The summer of that year I attended a conference with a group from my parent's church and found answers in the last place I would have expected. At the conference I came to realize that God loves me very, very much. Here, finally, was a lasting source of value I could fall back on. I had a sense of self worth to build on and the healing could begin.

The world is a scary place when you stop liking yourself.

Now I had hope. I had learned about God as a child, but just trying to survive had consumed me and I had long since forgotten about Him; God had not forgotten about me. During my second year of university, I came across the verse in the Bible that is one of my favorites,

"I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." (Isaiah 41:9&10)

Who am I? What a terrifying question when you don't like yourself very much. Now I have an answer: I am a woman loved by God. You can say the same. You matter to God. He loves you so much that He gave His only Son for you. You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here's a suggested prayer:

Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life to you and ask you to come in as my Saviour and Lord. Take control of my life. Thank you for forgiving my sins and giving me eternal life. Make me the kind of woman you want me to be.

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? You can pray it right now, and Jesus Christ will come into your life, just as He promised.

If you invited Jesus Christ into your life, thank God often that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that you have eternal life. As you learn more about your relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you'll experience life to the fullest.

Thanks to the charming Genzel of Genzel Kisses Blog!

Last April 2, i was picked by Genzel of Genzel Kisses blog as her commenter of the month for March (announcement here)

I love reading her blog posts, i love how detailed she can review a product =) with good quality images =) I love leaving query comments on her blog =) She's nice and very friendly =) hope I could also meet you personally someday hihi ♥

Seriously, when I first saw her, I was reminded of my cousin Monina, they're look alike =)

April 9, I got my package from Ms Genzel. yay! Thanks a lot dear! It was so fast ♥

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Inside my loot: 

A fur wallet (i gave this to mom)

Masque Ala Boue Mud Pac (handed to my younger sister, Rhona)

Anti-Acne Soap sample (also given to my sister because she has acne prone skin)

Pink Coin purse (i keep this! i love pink!)

WnW Lipgloss (given to youngest sister, Rizza lipstick and lipgloss addict, she emptied the GOSH lippie i gave her -- good job hihi)

Human Heart Nature facial wash and Toner (gave to mom =) hope she likes it)

Thanks Ms Genzel for making everybody happy in the house! Thank you for always checking out my blog and leaving some sweet notes =) hugs ~ rhain

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